Following The Advice of My Son

Little TDJ has developed a new, favorite expression, “Take it with us.”  He uses it anytime that he wants to bring a toy or a food item from its current place, to travel with us somewhere else.  Normally it refers to the iPad that he’d like to take in the car, or a toy that he wants to take from his play room to another room in the house.

His vocab doesn’t yet contain the words bring or keep, so he uses “take” to represent all three concepts.  Lately, he has been using it to refer to photos of his dad.  Once we’ve completed our nighttime routine and we are preparing to get into the bed, he will grab different framed and unframed photos and say, “take it with us.”  The first time that he asked, I was a little shaken.  He and I got into the bed, along with a pic of our family of three.  I know that he misses his dad and it’s a struggle for him to express how he’s feeling.  That was the first night of many that MrTDJ has “joined” us and whenever he does, our son falls asleep with a smile on his face.

Hmm, I realized that Little TDJ was on to something good.  I’d been trying to find my own way to keep him with me. Regardless of what else is going on, thoughts of my husband are never far from the surface.  And yes, I am still carrying his wallet.  But, I’ve been wanting something else; something tangible.  I know of many who get tattoos in honor of their loved ones.  I debated on that for about three nanoseconds.  Aside from being completely freaked out by the thought of pain, I simply don’t like body art enough to get any on myself.  I’ve seen bumper stickers and back window decals, but I don’t really dig those too much either.  License plate?  Nah.

And then I discovered Posh Mommy.  BAM!  Found it!  My necklace arrived last week and it is perfect.  MrTDJ and Little TDJ in one place.  I touch, rub and twirl it all day.  I am amazed at the sense of calm that drifts over me when I do.  I’ve found my own way to “take it with us”.  Thanks to Little TDJ, a little dude that is wise beyond his years.

***The opinions expressed in this post are mine, and mine alone.  I received no compensation or incentive to write about Posh Mommy Jewelry***

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18 thoughts on “Following The Advice of My Son

  1. It’s beautiful! After my father passed, a fiend sent me a silver bracelet in the mail that had his nickname for me on it. It made me feel the same way – I would touch it and be comforted.

  2. I love this. I’ve been looking for a way to take my Nana with me… I try to wear a piece of her jewelry every day, and thought of getting a tattoo also of her initials. I think the necklace is a perfect way to have her with me wherever I am. Thank you for sharing!

  3. I was going to suggest a necklace before I got to the bottom of the page. This one is beautiful! I got one with my son’s birthday when I went back to work. I also have a tattoo in remembrance of my aunt.

  4. So happy Taya that you have found something that can bring you a small amount of comfort in your struggle for peace. I love you.

  5. So beautiful…. You go Marcus…. the wisdom of our “little people”.. Listen to your children they bring you messages of wisdom from the “spirit world”!!!

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