Love of a Lifetime

Since my blog family is a big part of me, and as I’ve shared many parts of myself, I knew I had to compose a few words to share the loss that I have experienced.  There is a song by Kirk Franklin called “He Will Supply” at the end of this post that has helped me get through this weekend.

My beloved husband passed away on Saturday June 9 and the words fail me in attempting to explain how broken I am.  Most long-term readers know that MrTDJ and I have been linked in love since high school.  Specifically, we’ve shared a heart for the last 20 years.

I’ve decided to repost a few of the moments that I had previously blogged about.  If you’ve never read them, I hope you’ll take the time.  If you’re already familiar, humor me and read them again.  Click the links to share a little part of US.  Have a laugh and please say a prayer for me, my son and our entire circle of family and friends.

Meeting MrTDJ in high school – His laughter made my soul smile!

Prom Magic – Love to love that man!

An Unforgettable Rock Party – Yes, yes, it really happened folks

The Gift He Didn’t Quite Appreciate – We forever agreed to disagree on this one

The Night Mama and Daddy TDJ almost killed me and MrTDJ – Trying to be grown!

The Night I Almost Killed MrTDJ – Pays to knows your partners allergies

Game Night – this is the essence of my relationship with MrTDJ, laughs and love


127 thoughts on “Love of a Lifetime

  1. MrsTDJ- I am deeply sorry for your loss. I don’t know you in person, but I have enjoyed reading your blog and just “connecting” with just the simple things in life. What you and your husband share is priceless and can never be broken. That is a beautiful family right there!

    Sending God’s peace and healing to you and you family!


  2. Taya still very sorry for your loss. I wish I could take the pain away and always remember if you every want to talk call me I will always be ready to talk from your cousin and family from Georgia my prayers will always be with you and the family

  3. Oh my. On so so sorry for your loss. You are so loved around these parts. Please lean on any of us if you need to. You guys will be in my thoughts and prayers.

  4. My dear Mrs. TDJ, I am so very sorry to read about the loss of your husband. You have my deepest sympathies. May loving memories of your beloved husband fill your heart during this most difficult time.

  5. I am so sorry to hear of your husbands passing, It’s so kind of you to share you life with us I pray that those fantastic memories will help to sustain you on the days ahead.
    I will keep you and your son & the extended family in my prayers.

  6. I am so, so sorry for your loss. He seemed like such a loving and romantic man! You two as a couple inspire me to reach a deeper love with my husband. I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Condolences from our family to yours.

  7. I’ve been reading your blog for years and loving the bits of your family that you’ve shared with us. I’ve never commented before but just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers.

  8. I am so very heartbroken to hear of the loss of your beloved husband. All my thoughts and prayers are with you. If there is anything I can do for you during this difficult time, please don’t hesitateto ask.

  9. Taya, (my Big Sis) thank you for sharing your experiences of love and joy. My heart breaks for your loss! I will be here for the long road ahead… I’m just a phone call & city away! Stay strong for your lil man (although something tells me, your son is going to be the one to help you through this). xoxo Kitty

  10. Taya, I am so so so sorry to hear about your husband! My heart is breaking for you right now. I can’t even imagine what you are going through. Stay as strong as you can for your little man. I’ll keep you in my prayers. Email me leave me a comment what ever if you feel like it. (BIG HUG)

  11. You, your son and your family are in my prayers. I am not quite able to comprehend this and my heart and belly are overheating. I do not know your family personally, but your long time love and commitment has been beautifully shared through your blog.

  12. I’m very sorry for your loss. Typing that just doesn’t seem like enough. Please know that you, your son and entire family are in my prayers.

  13. I honestly don’t even know what to say. Sorry doesn’t seem like enough. I went back and read these posts yesterday when I heard. I love how much fun you had together. I can’t imagine your loss. Giant hug. I’m up at bizarre hours all the time. You can call me whenever if you ever just need to talk.

  14. I would like to extend my sincere condolences to you, your son and your family. I began reading your blog after TiffanyInHouston linked one of your posts on her blog. Although I never commented, I always enjoyed reading your posts about you and MrTDJ. As mentioned before, I can’t even imagine your loss but be encouraged in the days ahead. Cling to the wonderful memories you have with your husband and cherish them! My prayers are with you all.

  15. MrsTDJ, I’ll say it again, I am truly sorry for the loss of your husband. You and that man were one, and will continue to be one. He will be there always looking over your shoulder, throwing something in your path when you’re having a bad day to put a smile on your face. Your son, although young, will know your husband and the love you share through your love and actions for him.

    Be strong T, you have a strong group of women who are very willing to help and support whenever you need it.

  16. Taya… I am so so sorry .. I will pray for you, and your son for strength.. God has blessed you with such a wonderful mate and I am sure with lots and lots of memorable moments with your husband. I pray that you will be able to find lots of comfort knowing that.. Praying for you and your family…as

  17. I am so saddened to hear about your husband. I will be praying for your family and wanted to thank you for sharing Kirk Franklin’s song as my family is dealing with the loss of my grandmother who passed away last weekend and it really ministered to me. I loved reading your posts about him and hope you continue to reflect and share more stories of him as a tribute.

  18. I don’t know you that well, but my heart goes out to you. The lump in my throat has rendered me at a loss for words. I have been praying for you, and will continue to pray for you and your family.

  19. I am so very sorry to learn of your loss. I too found you through TiffanyNHouston, who I found through CreoleInDC. You are the reason I went blue for Autism Day! May the memories of your beloved husband sustain you and your loved ones in the days, weeks months and years ahead. My condolences..

  20. Taya, I am at a loss for words. Please continue to lean on your faith in God to get you through this. I can’t even imagine the pain you are going through. Just know that the spirit inside of you can get you through this.

  21. I don’t even have the words. I read you from time to time and wish there was something I could do to turn back the hands of times. You and your hubby shared the love most of us dream of, and as tough as it is now, those memories and good times will carry you.

    You and your family have my most sincere prayers and thoughts for comfort.

  22. I dont know you, have never read your post, but it breaks my heart for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers. You had something so so so precious……….

  23. This is my first time reading your blog, but I did read your story on Monica’s blog and I recall your Love of a Lifetime story. I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family.

  24. Sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers. I, too, shared a love like this for over 20 years and when you lose it, you feel empty.

  25. I am so shocked and so hurt and so speechless, Taya. I really don’t have the words to express my sympathy for the loss of your very best friend, your heart, your rock. May God continue to comfort you and your precious son. Once again, I am so, so, so sorry.

  26. Extending prayers and God’s healing presence to you and your son and all those deeply affected by this loss. So deeply sorry for you loss

  27. I am deeply saddened by this news. I don’t really have words. Like others have said, sorry doesn’t seem near enough. I feel as though I know you from reading your blog. I truely love reading all of your stories, especially the ones about the two of you. I will keep you & your family in my prayers.

  28. I’m so very sorry to hear of your loss. My heart and prayers are with you and your family as you deal with everything.

  29. Dear one,
    So sorry to hear of Mr TDJ passing. You have my deepest heartfelt condolences. I pray that God strengthens you, comforts you, and covers you in His peace. May you and your son cherish the memories and grow stronger in God’s blessed assurance.
    Peace & Love,

  30. Oh my goodness…my heart is broken for you and little man! I will be praying for you and your family. If there is anything I can do please let me know….

  31. Read each and every story about you and your Love. God Bless You. My prayers go up for you, My Thoughts are on you, My heart breaks for you and your family. Love you with all my heart.

  32. God be with you, may He comfort and keep you and your son. I pray you experience the peace that passes understanding at this time.

  33. I have lurked around here every now and then but absolutely must comment today. I am so very sorry for your loss. You shared an amazing love and life with your husband and that is a tremendous blessing. I’ll keep you, your son, and loved ones in my prayers. May God be with you all!

  34. Taya, I’m so very sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers. Your links brought tears to my eyes. I pray you find the strength and support you need to get through this difficult time.

  35. I am so sorry for your loss. Typing you a few words in a comment box seems like such an insufficient gesture but please know that I truly sorry by your loss. I know we don’t know each other in real life but we all share so much of ourselves on our blogs that I feel like you’re a genuine friend. If you need anything, please email me. You and your family are in my thoughts.

  36. I am so sorry to hear about your loss, you, your son and family are in my prayers! May God give you strength and great company to endure this storm!!

  37. My heart pours out to you and your lil one. I will defintiely keep you all in my prayers, and you know i am just down the Pike from you, so please if you need anything at all let me know!

  38. I am at a loss for words.. I am so sorry for your loss and I will continue to keep you in my prayers. If there is anything I can do please don’t hesitate to reach out. Hugs

  39. Oh Taya, my heart is truly nreaking for you. I know Mr. TDJ must have been a wonderful man becuase you are such a phenomenal woman. Ho;dong you and your family in my heart and prayers as you deal with this sudden, tragic loss. I am so, so sorry.

  40. I am so sorry for you loss Taya…I can only imagine the pain you are feeling. Keeping you and your family lifted up in prayer.

  41. Pingback: Blogland Prayer Request | CityofCyn

  42. I have no words. Only prayers for your strength and comfort during this time. I have read this blog for a long time and enjoyed the stories that you have shared about the love and the life you and your husband have together. You both touched so many near and far. My heart is so heavy and I will continue to lift you and your family up in prayer. I wish I could hug you so very tight right now.

  43. I am SO SO sorry for such a huge loss!! I can’t even fathom what you are going through. I pray for peace and healing. God Bless you and your family during this very difficult time. My heart aches for you deeply. xo

  44. Oh Taya! I have tears in my eyes and my heart aches for you. The love you two have shared has been so beautiful and inspirational. I am so sorry for your loss. I’m praying for you, your son, and your extended family…as well as MrTDJ. I’m in Cali now but please do not hesitate to contact me if you need anything. Much love and respect. ❤


    P.S. I'm going to inbox you my number on FB

  45. Taya… so sorry for your loss, my prayers are with you and your son… You are such a beautiful spirit… Know that your husband’s spirit and memories will always be with you now and forever. Love you Much… Ma Carter…(Jackson)

  46. I am so very sorry for your loss. You have a community that will surround you with love and uplift you. If you need anything do not hesitate to ask.

    I’m asking God to cover your family during this trying time!

    Hugs and Mocha,

  47. I am so sorry for your loss! Praying for GOD’s strength to guide you through this hard time of pain and loss! May GOD continue to keep you and your family safe and comforted through this painful journey!

  48. I am so sorry for your loss. May God’s comfort and the love of those who love you bring you comfort at this time. You and your family will be in my prayers.

  49. After hanging up with your Dad, I sat at my desk and cried like a baby. I am deeply sorry for you and Marcus’ loss. God bless you Taya. You are in our prayers. May the God of all peace comfort you during this time.

  50. Having never met you or read your blog prior to today (got here via CreoleinDC), please accept my sincerest condolences to you and your family on your loss.

  51. It took me a while to find the words and I think I’m still coming up woefully short… I’m so very sorry that you’re hurting. I pray that you have comfort and strength to sustain you, a shoulder or three to cry on, and an ear to listen to you whenever you need them. ((Hugs))

  52. Sorry, is such an adeqate word to use for such a great loss. But, I am so very sorry. Please accept my deepest sympathies for the loss of your beloved Mr.TDJ. I have readed your blog, but have never commented before today. I am praying that the the Lord strengthens you and put His arms of protection around you, your son and your entire circle of family and friends.
    God Bless

  53. I am so, so, so, sorry. I’ve lurked a lot and commented a little so I feel like I know you a little. My sympathies to you and your little one and the rest of your family.

  54. Pingback: Odds And Ends « No longer unemployed, no longer a bride…

  55. May you find strength in knowing that your husband is at peace with God. There is no pain that Jesus can’t heal. I’m so sorry for the loss your love. My prayers are with you and your family.

  56. I’m at a total loss for words. My heart is breaking – I can’t even imagine what yours must be feeling. Thank you for allowing us, your blogging family, to cover you with our love and our prayers. Please take some comfort in knowing that we have you, your beautiful little boy and your family lifted in prayer.

  57. words can’t describe how sorry I am for your loss. I read this a few days ago and I have been trying to come up with a way to express in a comment how sorry I am. I wish I could hug you, hold your hand or sit with you in silence if you needed me to. I decided I would share my exact prayer for you.

    In the mean time, I pray that God holds you upright in the face of this turmoil. I pray for your son, I pray for his understanding. I pray that those who are around you, are strong for you, even when you can’t focus or do basic things. I pray for peace in your soul as you reflect on the moments you two shared. I pray for your strength for this time, the hardest time of all. I pray that God holds you through it all, through the bad and through the good. Father we know that there is nothing You can’t handle, and I pray for MrsTDJ to look to you for light, for comfort, for understanding. Hold her tight while she grieves and help her to find strength within that she didn’t even know existed. Father, thank you for your everlasting mercy and grace. Put her back together Father, piece by piece. You are worthy of all honor and praise.

    In Jesus name I pray,

  58. Pingback: Honey, I Love… | i.choose.the.sun.

  59. After reading all the stories I can definitely see that you two had a very special love going on. I’m truly sorry for you and your family’s loss. You’ve truly been blessed to find your soulmate early in life. I’m hoping recounting those stories helped ease the pain even if for a moment. Keeping you all in my prayers.

  60. Isaiah 41:10 “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” There is no greater feeling than knowing that the Lord is with you and is keeping you. I pray for your peace, comfort and strength not just now, but always!

  61. Mrs. TDJ… *hugs* words escape me right now and feel hollow. Please just know you are truly being held up in prayer not only by me but by everyone who knows or e-knows you. You are loved.

  62. So sorry that I am just commenting. I read this post via email the day you published it and my heart hurt so bad for you and your family. I can’t imagine your pain……..
    I pray you find comfort in your memories and that you find strength to move forward again. xo

  63. My condolences to you, your family and friends. I can only imagine the amount of heartache you’re experiencing. Really sorry to hear.

  64. I am so incredibly late. I hadn’t seen anything from you and decided to come and check on you and my heart dropped. I am so sorry. I pray God’s comfort over you. I am speechless but please know you are in my prayers.

  65. I know you have so many other things to tend to but I can’t help but check in on you every day.
    You remain at the forefront of my thoughts and prayers.

  66. TDJ, I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I am just finding out by catching up on reading. I will have you and the baby in my prayers. I’m sorry that I don’t know what else to say.


  67. I’m not sure that anything that any of us could ever say would take away the feeling of loss. I’m reminded of finding your blog through a hop and the first post I read was how your mom and dad caught you at Mr. TDJ’s apartment when you were supposed to be at home. I think that I laughed until I had tears streaming down my face because of your realness and the obvious love that you had for both your parents and your husband. I will uphold you in prayer and my thoughts, as you go through the journey with baby TDJ as well. Tight ((hugs)) to you.

  68. Pingback: The Intersection of Grace and Grief: How Grieving for My Husband Is a Daily Struggle | Black and Married With - A Positive Image of Marriage and Family

  69. This blog makes me wanna appreciate my love now. Tomorrow is not promised. Thank you for sharing. We all need to remember why we fell in love in the first place.

  70. Pingback: My 2012 Discoveries

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s