From time to time, I receive emails from people asking me what I think about a particular situation, or asking me for my advice on something. Huh?? Little ole me?? MrsTDJ? Well, I thank y’all kindly for having so much trust in ya girl’s opinion. Usually the emails are related to weight loss surgery, obesity in general, and marrying your high school sweetheart. Cool. Obviously, all areas that I’m comfortable discussing and sharing insight on. Outside of that? Well, my friends say I’m a pretty rational, logical, straight shooter when it comes to sharing my opinion and they often turn to me as a sounding board.
I received an email over the weekend and the writer wanted to hear what my dear blog readers thought. I think I’ll start routinely posting these under a category called Speak On It. I’m especially interested in my male readers, so please come out from the shadows to impart just a wee bit of wisdom on this here topic, m’kay?
I love your blog! I read often, but I rarely comment since I read from work. Would you mind asking your blog readers to weigh in on a situation? I’m engaged to the love of my life. In preparation for our move into another space, I’ve come across an old box of mine that contains letters and pictures from previous relationships. I know that you’re not really one for nostalgia (re your baby mementos post), but I tend to love keeping things. It’s never occurred to me to trash these items, but I’m wondering how my fiancée might react to them. I am 100% committed to my fiancée. I don’t maintain friendships with any of my ex’s however there are many fond memories in the box. I’m struggling with the idea of throwing these boxes away. I am leaning toward keeping them, but I wouldn’t want to hold on to all this stuff if it hurt my fiancée. I turned the scenario around, and if my fiancée were holding on to old mementos, I wouldn’t object knowing that he is 100% mine. Can you ask your blog readers what they think?
My response is toss ’em. But, hey, we all know I’m not much for certain types of mementos. Seriously though, I’d personally feel like my partner didn’t have both feet in if they had a secret stash of love things from previous relationships. Right or wrong, that’s my emotional response. I’d feel the need to be rid of those items, even if my partner didn’t have an objection. But, heck, what do I know? MrTDJ and I have been together since polka dots were cool. I’m so not qualified to advise on matters of the heart.