In case ya’ll didn’t know, I’m a wee bit hooked on reality television. Not all shows mind you, just the one’s that I listed here. So, I saw a preview for a new MTV show, Engaged and Underage and knew that I had to at least watch the first episode. Usually, it only takes one episode to hook me, but I had convinced myself that I would not get hooked on a new show. Uh, yeah, right, so obviously I’ve programmed my DVR and I’ll be watching this series. *lol* I’m hopeless! Anyways, on to the show. The title had me prepared to see folks in there teens getting married, but not quite. The couples are all between 18-22, which by today’s standard is “young” for marriage. But is it too young? To hear the family and friends on the show talk, hell yes. Well, some seemed supportive, but the common consensus seemed to be, “WAIT!”
Back in the day, folks got married at 13, 14, 15. Shoot, my Grandma LuLu was married at 14 and had my oldest uncle before she was sixteen. But, is that simply “the way it was” and no longer the way it is? Are these “young” couples in the minority? It seems that more and more folks that I know are waiting until their 30’s to get married. By then, you’ve been dated, started a career, etc, so you’re ready to embrace coupledom. As my one girlfriend said, “I finally know who I am and I can offer my complete self to him and him to me.”
But what if you fall in love and decide that you understand the commitment of marriage at say 18 or 19; why not do the damn thing? Kids today seem to grow up faster in some ways, yet more immature than previous generations. Hmm, interesting. On the opposite end of the spectrum, in an entry titled, “Kinda from my inbox: Ya’ll Been Dating How Long?”, Creole Princess is discussing how long you date someone with a traditional commitment.
What do ya’ll think? How young is too young? If you’re younger than 22, how long should you date before getting engaged? And once engaged, how long should you wait to get married? I know that every couple and every situation is different. And, I also know that there are always exceptions to the rule. Cool. So don’t say it. *lol* I want to know what you think. Would you or did you get married at 20? Know any 20 year olds ready for marriage? Let’s talk!