If you desire to get married and you are dating someone who keeps promising that it will happen, how long is too long to wait? I mean is there a point when you decide that you waited long enough? Do you ever consider that it really is “about him” and not “about you”?
One of my newest friends, let’s call her Cali Girl, has been in my life for about 5 years. I refer to her as new because all my friends prior to meeting her were from childhood, high school or first year of college. I love meeting new people, but it’s very hard for me to bring them into my life as a “friend”. I’ve been trying to be more open and thanks to a few ladies in the Blogosphere, I’m starting to make new friends. 🙂
Anyways, Cali Girl and I clicked and we’ve been friends for a few years now. Well, unbeknownst to me at the time our friendship was conceived, Cali Girl likes drama. Some might even say she craves it. AAGGHH!!! Drama? Around me? No, No, NO!! Ya girl TDJ avoids drama at all costs! So, anyway, Cali Girl and her man have been together for 10 years and they have a 5 year old son. They’ve been getting married “when the time is right” for 10 years. (In the interest of full disclosure, MJ and I started dating in high school and waited 10+ years to marry.) Now, I’ve met the man and I’m pretty sure that he’s pinch hitting for both teams.
Pause. Breathe. Read it again. Yes, Cali Girl’s boo is clearly bisexual. I suspected it based on many, many interactions, the confirmation of the bros at the beauty/barber shop that we all used to frequent, and independent confirmation from a male associate that called to share details on the new “friend” in his life. Da hell? CG’s boo is on the DL in DC?
Alrightee then. So, Cali Girl’s boo is definitely bisexual! Hmm, they’ve been together ten years. Does she know? Maybe she does. Does she care? Maybe she doesn’t. Should I be the one to break it to her? Where’s her sister? Her best friend from kindergarten? Why the hell don’t they see it? I gently hinted around it once and Cali Girl’s response was blank and difficult to interpret. However, her excitement bubbled through the phone this past Sunday when shared how excited she was that they were talking about getting married in 2012? What da hell? What are they organizing – the 2012 Olympics or a wedding/marriage? I guess hope springs eternal when you’re crazy in love. Or maybe she just feels like one of the last girls on earth.